I want to be like you. No you really don’t.

It’s been a while since I’ve written a post. Mostly because I’ve been either active on instagram or busy with my real life (non-social media) stuff.


But today I finally had some free time to write about something I’ve been wanting to get off my chest for a while. It’s about a question I get asked a lot. “How do you stay this way?” When I ask them what “this way” means, many reply, “skinny”, many reply “lean” or “in-shape” or “so fit”, and it always surprises me that people think I’m any of those things, because I sure as hell don’t. It’s gotten to the point of some saying “I wish I were like you”.


Okay, so here’s the thing about that. The simple and honest truth about me. I’m not in the best shape of my life. Not even close. That point was when I was 17-20 years old. That was when I was a “beast” in strength, stamina and endurance. I had a harder than steel body and felt no pain. It wasn’t because of steroids either, I never touched the stuff, it’s evident in all my pictures, no it was because of how I trained and what I trained. I trained 6 hours a day, including training various Martial Arts everyday. That’s how I got to that point. Now, let me tell you something about that. I was an idiot. I broke my body doing that. Why? It was me trying to overcompensate for something I didn’t need to. It wasn’t until about 5-6 years ago that I came to my senses by educating myself and thought, this type of training will not be good for my body in the long run and that maybe I should try focusing on things that will actually help instead of ruining my health. Like how I live my life, how I eat and how I sleep, how much stress I allow/disallow in my life and the people I associate with.


Then with that, suddenly I didn’t need to do overcompensate. What changed? Well, my mindset for one and the fact that I wasn’t working out to prove something anymore, instead I was working out to take care of myself. My goals and my needs changed after that. But the one thing that did not change, was how I was able to maintain almost the same amount of weight and body mass even when I wasn’t overdoing it. The reason? Well, I changed my focus from overdoing it in the exercise department to how much I eat, yes how much, not just what I eat, what I eat is a very small aspect of how I can still manage my body.


Let me give you an example of what I eat, virtually everyday.
This is peppered chicken breast, shallow fried in canola oil, because it has a neutral flavor, I used olive oil before, but it just wasn’t up to my taste.



This is often what I eat in the morning, 30-45 minutes before workout. An egg in the basket.



This, is what I eat on a day when I have worked a lot. Not worked out, but worked, over all. Training clients, working out, walking, etc. etc. It’s spaghetti (with some veggies thrown in), chicken patties and an egg.



This is what I drink in the morning, if I don’t have time to cook. It is a simple milkshake with a little protein powder added and a very tiny piece of banana (optional) and a little bit of mango juice for flavoring.



The above things, are my staple and yes, I do eat vegetables as well, just not everyday. Now as you can see, the above is nothing magical. Nothing out of the ordinary and if you look at the price tags, it’s really cheap too. No gimmicks, no trends and no fad diets. Simple foods that give me all the nutrients I need.


Now, when people tell me, that they wish they were “skinny” like me or “lean” like me or “in-shape” or a million different things I’ve been told. My response to them is always the same. “You can, anyone can, you can be better in fact”.


The thing is that most people think of achieving a particular body type as something impossible and magical, when all it is, is you minding what you will and won’t eat and how much of it will you eat. Once you start taking care of that, the rest will start to fall into place within a few weeks. Your body will start feeling the effects of a good eating habit. Being reckless with your daily eating habit won’t help you progress, no matter how many oats you eat. Because if after eating oats you’re going out and stuffing yourself with heaven knows what kind of toxic sugary waste, then those oats won’t magically help you make that sugar disappear. In fact, they’ll add to it. This is a bit different topic, but yes, Oats do have sugar and if you add something to it, like store bought honey, well, you’re adding more sugar to it.


So stuff like that kills your progress. It becomes a habit, and just remember one thing, it isn’t easy to break a habit, but it is possible to condition it out of you. Slowly break out of it by taking small steps and breaking those small steps into even smaller choices and create a new habit, a better one. If you succeed in doing so, you won’t have to compare yourself to anyone. Because you will be the one who will create a new standard, a personal best in achieving your goal, whether it’s weight loss or fat loss or muscle gain or developing strength, stamina or just maintaining a good physical health over all.


So, please stop comparing yourself to others, I know that it’s human nature to do so, but we also have the capacity to think and stop ourselves from doing that, and when you do that, you start focusing on improving your own body without worrying about what others are doing. Because let’s face it, what others are doing, is not necessarily always suitable for you or even good for you in many cases, as their lives are different, their routines are different, their bodies are different, their goals and ambitions and their needs are different, and most importantly, what they’re doing is something they actually want to do. So, when you start comparing yourself to someone, like a celebrity for example, look up what they do to get that result, then be honest and ask yourself, would you want to do the same everyday and make it a part of your life? The answer, most likely will be a resounding “NOPE! Movin’ on!”


Well, that’s it. Thanks for reading! If you find this article useful, please share it with someone who you think might benefit from it 🙂

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